If you like to know a bit more about Financial Domination therapy, visit My web page on niteflirt HERE. I am the ORIGINAL only REAL FinDom therapist!
If you wish to know more about Me, start by visiting My main website SabinaErotica.com HERE, and My main niteflirt web page HERE.
I am the ORIGINAL FemDom FinDom Financial Domination Therapist. Every other variation anywhere on the internet is a copy of ME. I’m that good!!
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J. writes: Dear Dr. Sabina Erotica, Help! My wife caught me using niteflirt. She found the credit card statement, did some checking online, and found out I was using niteflirt. I had to explain to her I liked talking to dominant women, in fact, it was you I last talked to Mistress Sabina before she busted me. It’s been several months now. She is still mad at me, withholding sex and watches the money like a hawk. I can’t get you out of my head, I need to be financially dominated by you again. What can I do?
Yes, it’s unfortunate, but too many explain on their own niteflirt websites and sex blogs that “your phone bill will be discreetly billed as “NF S******s”. This gives it away to anyone who googles it, doesn’t it? I starred it out because I do not want to add to this problem. It’s not “discreet” as long as it’s explained and spelled out on so many websites and blogs attached to niteflirt, now is it?
You don’t have to tell Me how “vanilla” or traditional women just don’t understand the true sexual nature of their husbands. I’ve heard it all before (and they wonder why their men stray!). But you have come to the right person.
We’ve already done sessions, so you know I have all the answers. Smart you!
Here is what you do: Pre-paid credit cards, or get a new and secret bank account at a bank she doesn’t know about, and get a P.O. box to have the statements sent to. Also, use a cell phone you purchase for use on niteflirt, which uses pre-paid calling cards for funds. I do think the best solution is getting the secret bank account, that way you can add funds when you want and avoid the hassle of getting pre-paid cards. There are some cards you can add funds to online, but you have to remember to clear your computer history every time you use niteflirt or that account, if you do it online. Don’t use a phone where the statements are sent to your house. Dumb, dumb.
I love telling men how they can get away with calling Me on niteflirt so I can financially exploit them!
As for the finances, lie about the amount you get. Lie about raises, lie about bonuses, lie about getting your hours cut back or taking a cut in pay. You are the man of the house in your vanilla life, take control of your finances. I’m guessing the old lady is NOT the primary breadwinner, correct? She also has no interest in sharing your true sexual needs with you, so, you lie about it and spend your money on whatever you want to.
Now, follow My advice, and I expect to be hearing from you, and raping your wallet, very soon!
FemDom Financial Domination Therapy on niteflirt: 800-863-5478 ex. 02-40-34-40
BikeRacer24 writes: Dear Dr. Mistress Sabina Erotica, I am being blackmailed by a domme. I let it go too far and she is calling me at the wrongtimes and I’m afraid my girl friend will find out, she’s already asking questions about why I don’t have any money. The domme who is doing this keeps demanding more money than I have and i don’t have anything left to give. I’ve already given her over $1,000 but she wants more. She IMs and calls me if I don’t answer her IM. She calls late at night knowing my GF is with me and it’s getting crazy. Can you help me?
Once again, how many times do I have to tell you horny subbies to be careful when you play with blackmail? You get excited, and you give out that information too fast. You don’t have a clue who that person is, or you don’t have enough sense to do a little bit of homework and see if there is any way to verify or get feedback (What My 30,000+ loyal and devoted Sabina Erotica subjects are saying Click HERE… And more Click HERE… Still more Click HERE…) from other men who interacted with this person.
How understanding is your girl friend? Otherwise, why not change your phone number and block her from IM? Pretend you lost your phone and get a new one. Small price to pay!
Now, because I know you will get weak again and want to do this over and over, come see Me the next time you get the urge to be blackmailed by a Domina who knows what She is doing. Me.
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Kaedon88 writes: Dear Dr. Mistress Sabina Erotica, what does a femdom do? And what is a findom? I don’t understand.
I am both a FinDom and a FemDom.
A FemDom (sometimes written FemDomme) is a shortened version of the two words “Female Dominant” or “Female Domination”. FemDom.
If you want to know more about what a female Dominant, Domination or Dominatrix does, a good place to start is My FemDom blog.
A FinDom is a shortened version of the word Financial Domination or FinDom. What is Financial Domination? I have answered this in another blog post, read it to find out!
if you wish to know more information, call me for a live online session.
Financial Domination Therapy on niteflirt: 800-863-5478 ex. 02-40-34-40
Bob writes: Dear Dr. Mistress Sabina Erotica, can you train me slowly to be a good financial domination money slave submissive?
The key word that jumps out at Me is “slowly”. Why would you want to be slowly trained to be a submissive male money slave? OK, maybe you don’t want to throw thousands into it the first month (although a few sessions with Me and you will be begging to max out all your credit cards and cash reserves).
If you mean “condition” you, well, you first have to ease that tight grip on those purse strings, or in your case, your wallet. As a lifelong FinDom FemDom I don’t want to waste My time, effort, expertise and skill on teasing small, loose change out of a sub man when there are so many money slaves willing to pay Me what I am worth.
For Me, you are not, IF this is what you mean by “slow”.
But if by “slow” you mean, “longer” periods between money slave conditioning lessons at the rate I am accustomed to, then feel free to call Me so we can discuss this in depth. And by rates, I’m not talking about My per minute rate.
Lesson #1: It’s not Financial Domination until you pay Me more than My initial per minute rate.
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A submissive man seeking My expertise showed Me this article from some online porn addict forum, and asked My opinion on it. As I begin to read it, My eyebrows went up and a smile came over My face. It read like some fantasy you find on one of the many BDSM fantasy story websites. I could tell immediately this person, only identified as “jason”, had no clue what the hell he was talking about when it comes to Financial Domination addiction. Allow Me to demonstrate why uninformed and inexperienced people are giving bad, wrong and gross misinformation regarding the fetish and the addiction of Financial Domination, blackmail and financial ruin. His words will be italicized, Mine, in bold.
Financial domination: why men get addicted
Submitted by Jason on 23 July 2010
Just recently, a couple of men have contacted me concerned about their addiction to ‘financial domination’. They were in an arrangement with a remote mistress or dominatrix to cater for her every whim, commanded daily by phone or instant messenger.
“A couple” men contacted him and told him they were “commanded daily by phone or instant messenger”. Daily? Every day? Perhaps, in these TWO cases.
In essence, she provides verbal abuse and her slaves reciprocate with expensive gifts and direct transfers of cash. There’s no sex or physical meeting on offer.
“She provides verbal abuse and her slaves reciprocate with expensive gifts and direct transfers of cash.”
“Verbal abuse”? OK, benefit of the doubt, perhaps in these TWO isolated cases. Funny, this sounds like an article I read published by someone else on the question of “What is Financial Domination”.
It’ll come as no surprise that there are hundreds of websites offering this service.
Yes, this is true.
For the money slaves, this sounds like an unfathomably expensive hobby. I’ve read accounts from guys who struggle to support their families, yet feel compelled to hand over every dollar of their income and savings to the madam.
“Read accounts from guys who struggle to support their families, yet feel compelled to hand over every dollar of their income and savings to the madam.”
Read… Where? Stories he’s seen at BDSM fantasy websites? Not very many money slaves or Financial Domination enthusiasts write extensive accounts of their fetishes that I am aware of, and I’ve been doing this a long time.
And no, not all of them are “struggling to support their families”. Not all of them have families to support, NOR are all of them “compelled to hand over every dollar of their income and savings to the madam.” That’s yet another fetish called “Financial Ruin”.
In fact, the fantasy thrives on the threat of inevitable bankruptcy.
No. This is not true. Only if a submissive man has the fetish of Financial Ruin.
These guys volunteer all of their personal information so that the dominatrix can apply pressure if the gifts dry up.
No, not always, not by a long shot. In addition, giving all of one’s personal information is called the fetish of consensual blackmail, NOT Financial Domination. It can be used in conjunction with Financial Domination, but they are two separate fetishes
She has a squad of other money slaves at her command, all willing to make blackmail calls to wives and employers as they scramble to please the mistress. Suffice to say, relationships and careers hang in the balance.
“She has a squad of other money slaves at her command, all willing to make blackmail calls to wives and employers as they scramble to please the mistress.”
Oh the drama! A “squad”!? “…all willing to make blackmail calls to wives and employers” ?! Oh please! Where did he get THIS information! It’s laughable! I’ve never heard of this in the 30,000+ Domination sessions I’ve done online via email and phone! Perhaps a select FEW have been threatened by this, but I’ve never heard of it actually happening!
Now I’m asking, they are asking, you are probably asking, even the dominatrix probably wonders… just how can this be an addictive turn on?
Raises My hand: I know why!!
I question this with no moral agenda; I’ve no issue at all with consenting adults making arrangements for whatever turns them on. My interest is in helping people when things get out of control and problematic, and the potential here is immense.
Yet this person clearly does not understand this fetish at all.
Just like any good old-fashioned, non-financial sadomasochistic fantasy, the answer partly lies in the special relationship. Even when it is only conducted over the internet, there’s a unique level of understanding and communication at work.
Finally, something I agree with. Know that lies and misinformation often contain little nuggets of truth, hence this person appears to know what they are talking about, when in fact, they do not.
In terms of meeting core emotional needs, the slave receives attention and a sense of purpose. Every payment enables him to feel a closer connection to the mistress.
A partial truth, not true in all cases.
He has direct, urgent objectives to attend to and layers of secrecy to maintain. It’s cybersex on steroids, a constant and elicit medication for feelings of loneliness, disconnection and ironically, low self-worth.
The secrecy of online porn and sex, and engaging with a woman on the sly makes it exciting. This is no secret.
But “a constant and elicit medication for feelings of loneliness, disconnection and ironically, low self-worth.”?
The vast majority of My money slaves are very confident men with don’t feel a sense of “low self worth” at all. Again, clueless.
Also, I would suggest that unconscious feelings of guilt play a major part for many men in this scenario. The more that they empower someone to financially hurt them, the more they are reassured that they are not doing the hurting. Subconscious feelings of guilt inhibit sexual arousal, and the financial domination fantasy provides a method for transcending the guilt.
Guilt? Transcending guilt about what? Not hurting anyone else? Men have a secret guilt complex not to hurt other people? This gave me a chuckle.
It’s a complicated and costly route to sexual excitement, but it clearly can become a deeply compulsive coping mechanism. Many of us have subconsciously learned to feel guilty about being more successful or able than others, usually at a very early age. For some, the injunction is so restrictive that they have to arrange to be a victim.
Ahh, jason says it’s about feeling guilty because these Financial Domination enthusiasts are one of the “haves” versus the “have nots” and therefor they have become sexually inhibited. Laughable!
In order to break out of these self-destructive games, developing perspective and self-forgiveness is key. Through counselling, we can explore feelings of guilt and unmet needs. No matter how duped we might feel, the yearning to be exploited had some underlying positive intent. Once we recognise this, much more positive options for living can open up. We can be honest with ourselves and those around us, rendering the blackmail threat ineffective. The money mistress loses a worshipper, but she won’t have fared too badly from the whole deal.
“Self-forgiveness”. Feeling bad because you have money and other people don’t. Please! jason, no you didn’t just go there as the root of the Financial Domination fetish! As for “unmet needs”, needs are the reason everyone is compelled to fulfill sexual desires.
The rest of the website article goes on with typical comments exuding sympathy for these poor souls who are being terribly used and abused by Financial Dommes because they feel guilty they have money (LOL!) and it reads like responses to a post on an Oprah or Dr. Phil website.
You gents see My point? Do you see the dangers of seeking Financial Domination Therapy, help, advice, or counseling from people who have no experience with this fetish, don’t even know how to identify it, don’t understand the dynamics or why men do it and no clue what Financial Domination is about? I hope you can see this. And I also hope you seek ME when you need help and not some unqualified anonymous name on the internet.
The dangers of seeking unqualified help are: Financial Domination, blackmail and financial ruin addictions are NOT the same as generic online porn or sex addictions. Treating them is if they are, and conveying misinformation is harmful in the cure and treatment of Financial Domination money slaves.
One of My Financial Domination addicts went to a sex addiction therapist, and that therapist literally laughed in his face when he heard My sub explain his Financial Domination addiction. The danger of seeking unqualified and unknowledgable Financial Domination therapists (which includes ALL other purported “FinDom therapists”, since I am the ORIGINAL and ONLY real Financial Domination therapist, (no one else offered FinDom counseling when I first started to do this, everyone else copied My area of expertise and have none themselves) the only one qualified to help Financial Domination victims) is that it can cause further damage.
Hoping to be seduced by a so-called “FinDom therapist” and discovering you have wasted more money on those who have no clue how to play the game and play it well will discourage you from finding what you really need. And I know what you really need.
I make it no secret I am a Financial Dominatrix predatrix, and have been Financial Dominating men, blackmailing and financially ruining men long before it was called “Financial Domination”. But My years experience has given Me the insight and real time experience no one else has when it comes to understanding this fetish. Read My latest exploits on My main website SabinaErotica.com and My Financial Domination, blackmail, financial ruin and other forms of fetish and Domination blog.
My record for helping money slaves is well documented in the testimonials from the former money slaves, pay pigs and cash cows themselves right on My niteflirt listings.
What My 30,000+ loyal and devoted Sabina Erotica subjects are saying Click HERE… And the Financial Domination money slaves I’ve helped and cured: Click HERE… Still more Click HERE…
I’m not some anonymous name on the internet with very questionable creditials (if any) or no verifiable experience.
You can pick up the phone and call Me, and hear for yourself I am a highly experienced Financial Dominatrix who has years experiences as the ORIGINAL Financial Domination therapist. Determine for yourself if I am qualified, if I have all the answers, all the REAL answers.
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Dear Dr. Mistress Sabina Erotica, I am looking for a femdom mistress to train me to be her money slave, and be conditioned into money slavery. Where can I find someone to train me to be her money slave?
Lucky you! So you want to be a money slave, and be trained or conditioned to be into money slavery? Check out My other blog post about Trained A Money Slave. This is something I do all the time to submissive pets just like you!
I do find it a little odd that you would need to be “trained” to be a money slave. Perhaps it’s because I don’t have to “train” many submissive men to be My money slaves. They beg to be My money slaves.
At any rate, I outline what My sophisticated and predatory training or conditioning method is in My other blog article.
Once you have read it, call Me and let the male money slave training begin!
My mian niteflirt listing for Financial Domination, money slavery, etc: 800-863-5478 ext 01-88-32-14
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“weewillie” writes: Dear Dr. Mistress Sabina Erotica, help! I can’t get off unless I pay a beautiful and cruel woman to humiliate me because I have a small penis. My little dick is only 4 inches long, and unless a sexy hot woman is laughing at me and my small cock, I can’t get off. Worse I have to pay her tributes to do this. What can I do?
Weewillie, you do have a problem! Paying a woman extra to humiliate you is a form of Financial Domination and Financial humiliation. You can’t simply have women laugh at your small dick, you also have to pay, tribute and gift to get off.
This is indeed Financial Domination, as defined by the expert, Me: It’s not Financial Domination until you pay Me more than My initial per-minute rate.
You are doing that.
So you are a guy with a small penis. What else can you do? You can’t satisfy a woman with that little thing, can you? Don’t tell Me you make up for it by having exceptional cunalingus or pussy eating skills. Every man with a small dick tells Me this. I doubt it.
Your choices are limited. You could try and find vanilla or conventional woman to laugh at you, but these women tend to be submissive, so they will likely tell you “size doesn’t matter”.
But you and I know the sad truth, don’t we? It does, and your small dick won’t cut it. What else do you have to offer a woman like Me, except your money?
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hummerdude asks: Dear Dr, Mistress Sabina Erotica, I spend WAY too much money on internet online female domination porn. What can I do?
The internet has made the availability of porn so easily accessible, that it’s one of the newer addictions. Men no longer have to sneak out to the Adult Bookstore or porn theater in order to get his porn fix. And the variety available is almost infinite when it comes to online internet porn.
Female Domination used to be one of those niches you had to search to find. Now it’s as easy as typing the keywords into Google. Fetish film and video makers both professional and amateur are churning out FemDom porn daily. It can be very addicting!
You didn’t provide many details, so I am unable to give you specific advice on your particular situation. Affordability is such a relative thing. How much is too much? When you are on the verge of being homeless. I’m assuming in your case, this is not so.
Call Me and let’s discuss your particulars. I do have some very realistic ways in which you can limit your porn spending habit! Be sure to have enough money loaded on your account for a minimum of 15 minutes. 30 is better. An hour ideal.
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Barry writes: Dear [Dr.] Mistress Sabina Erotica, I’ve been looking for the right woman to spoil for a while now. I enjoy financial domination and want to be owned and give myself fully to a dominant woman and treat her like a queen, but all I do is waste money. Where can I find a good domm[e]?
This is a common question for Me: Where or how do I find a good domme, Mistress, dominatrix dominant FemDom woman? Not every man wants to drop to his knees for every Dominant woman. There are men who desire a genuine connection and emotional bond to a woman before he feels he can give himself fully and financially.
I understand perfectly. In fact, I encourage submissive men to get to know Me a bit and vise versa before engaging in online Domination sessions. This way we’ve made a bit of a connection and get to know each other better. The more I know about you, the better the interaction will be. I love ongoing financially generous relationships with submissive men who can appreciate who and what I am, and indulge Me because of it.
So where does a man who desires a “good” dominant woman find one?
First, have some idea what you are looking for.
Second, for those looking to an exclusive real time dating/domme financial indulgence situation, a domme isn’t going to appear on your front door. You have to go out and mingle. Find out if there are BDSM events or groups in your area. Go where those women are likely to be.
I’m skeptical of the BDSM networking dating websites because so many subs have told Me they are a waste of time. However, there have been exceptions.
If you desire an online distance training relationship situation, your options are greatly increased. You may not find many dominant women in your local area, but you can find many online. Distance domme/sub relationships can be extremely rewarding. I have many Myself, and I am always looking for more generous financially fit gents who want an authentic interchange.
I can tell you some of the most intense domme/sub relationships I have had, are with My online submissive men.
And lastly, don’t feel obligated to toss money away where you are not inspired to give it.
Would love to discuss this with you further, and perhaps we can develop a strong and meaningful online relationship ourselves.
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